This is post 3 of a three-part series by guest writer Anne Kelly, President of Junonia ~ Activewear for Plus Size Women
There are two parts to building up self-confidence: setting goals and achieving them, and protecting yourself from anyone who might want to take away from it.
Self confidence doesn’t come in pill form. It comes from actually doing things. Taking the first steps can be scary, and sometimes the phrase “Fake it ‘til you make it” can help. Put yourself out there, and you’ll soon see your self-confidence increasing. Start with small things, and work your way up to your dreams. Do you want to build your self-confidence even faster? Help someone else increase theirs! It’s a win-win.
Protecting Your Self-confidence
Self-confidence is a very important part of being an effective human. It is not selfish or arrogant. Self-confident people rarely whine. It is really nice to be around self-confident people. Self-confident people get things done.
However, I have to admit there are some jealous and bullying types who take as their mission in life tearing down the self confidence of others. So protect yourself from these controlling types. Be aware they exist, and that they do this to everyone—NOT JUST YOU. Get away from them. They may be the first to sabotage your efforts in your weight loss program.
If you must interact with these unfortunates, set your rules: “I do not tolerate abusive language.” “My workout time is sacred, I must leave at 5.” Do not engage in useless arguments. Find other self-confident people to support you in positive ways. Don’t let the bully make you cringe; stand up tall, look them in the eye and state your position. Well-done!